I think for a majority of us who grew up with parents that didn’t explain sex early on, there is one person we remember as being the one who told us about sex. Since most people are in school around the time puberty hits, that conversation usually happens as snippets told by an older, ‘wiser’ child on the playground or schoolbus.
As the oldest of 4 children, she has had 3 opportunities to ask me about the babies that grow inside me. Her specific concern each time: How did the baby get in there?!
And I was honest. As honest as I felt I needed to be with her at each age.
2 years old: Daddy put it there.
4 years old: Daddy put it there.
You know how chickens lay eggs? Women have eggs in their bodies, and, when they feel ready, the daddy helps turn that egg into a baby.
Oh. I like eggs. Can we have breakfast for dinner?
6 years old: How does daddy make your egg into a baby?
Well… that’s why men have a penis. To make babies.
The penis goes in the vagina and a thing called sperm comes out. Sperm is what turns an egg into a baby.
I just don’t understand HOW the penis gets into the vagina.
Let’s find you a book…
Yeah, I chickened out on the last one. They say that you should only answer the questions that children ask, offering no extra information. She still hasn’t asked for the book, but I’m okay with that for now.
I did stress that sex is for people who are ready to make, and take care of, a baby. We’ll have to readdress that down the road, for sure, but, for now, she’s the kid on the playground with the honest mom that calls a penis a penis and just hopes that it saves her daughter from learning through inappropriate experience. Now to teach her when it’s okay to talk about it…
You’re welcome, and I’m sorry.
When did you get/give the talk?