Yep. I’m going to my 10 year reunion. For high school. With people I graduated next to. Because:
10 years ago, I was so freaking happy to be out of high school. My life ahead of me, my not terrible but not amazing years as a high school student behind me.
I was NEVER going back.
Reunions? For suckers. Glorified preening parties for people who were popular in school and wanted to show off that they still had it.
‘It’ being something that I never had.
I was a choir geek, horrible at sports, and “not skinny” or moderately fashionable. Of course now I would kill to have my high school body again, but hey, such is life. My close friends had either graduated the year before me or would graduate the year after me. There really wasn’t anyone in my class except my best friend/soon-to-be-roommate that I was terribly worried about keeping in touch with.
As far as I was concerned, everyone from my graduating class may as well not have existed for how much thought I would give them for the rest of my life.
And then, social media happened.
First, it started with old acquaintances reaching out to me, and, eventually, me to them. Hey, well, maybe this isn’t so bad. It’s cool to know they’re doing well. And look at how much we actually have in common when you take away the bullshit of high school hierarchy.
Next, reconnecting with some friends who had gone their own way on not-so-pleasant terms. Cautiously reconnecting, it was a great feeling to be able to say, Dude, I was stupid, I’m sorry. Are we cool now? And we were. Side pondering: Is that how guys apologize? Just all zen, water-under-the-bridge type stuff? Because it’s so easy peasy.
Then, suddenly finding yourself having a dialogue with people you barely interacted with on a daily basis in school, via a mutual friend’s posting. Enjoying the dialogue so much that you cautiously reach out the ‘hand’ of social media friendship, and there you are, given access to the pieces of their daily life they wish to share with the people they’re connected with. You. You are suddenly part of that circle.
It becomes the new platform for sharing achievements, woes, and general lifely things that you never would have guessed at or known about on your own.
Engagements, marriages, children, degrees, jobs, deaths, vacations, moves, achievements… You have a front row seat to see and remark on them when they happen.
Gone are the days of storing all of your cool happenings for a night or weekend of preening in front of the people you spent 4 years elbowing to maintain your place on the social ladder of high school.
Now, we can come together just as people, already knowing the amazing or mundane things the others have been up to.
Sure, there are many of my class of 400 people who I am not in touch with, who may not even remember me or know who I am. For the most part though, the playing field has been leveled.
And I am so ready to go out and play. Of course, by play, I mean party. Because we’re adults now, and our parents can’t stop us.