Mothers, let me ask some questions. If someone was trash-talking your boy, what advice would you give them? Ignore it? Walk away? Tell an adult? Stand up for yourself?
If someone mistreats, verbally or physically, one of your children, how do you tell them to handle it?
If your child was in the final steps of reaching one of their biggest goals, personally or career driven, and someone told them they couldn’t do it, they weren’t up to the task, they weren’t qualified to make it happen, what would you encourage them to do about it?
I know all parents teach their kids differently, but really THINK about this. I don’t need to know your answers, I just want all of us to think about them.
Would you blame them for shouting from the mountaintops in triumph when they proved the nay-sayers wrong? Would you scold them for taking a stand and saying, “I DID IT and you were WRONG about me.”?
If your child tried to take the high road (i.e. Congratulate their opponent, this person who was one of their biggest critics, and offer a handshake) only to be literally shoved in the face, could you blame them for snapping?
Should Sherman apologize for his post-game outburst about Crabtree? No, I don’t think so. There were obviously a lot of pent up feelings and adrenaline surrounding the situation, and Crabtree is lucky a verbal outburst (with ZERO profanity) is all that happened after the way he treated Sherman’s peace-offering handshake.
When you excel at something you are passionate about, literally in the face of adversity, you are allowed to be pleased with the result. You are allowed to tell it like it is.
We can’t tell our kids to take pride in themselves, to stand up for themselves, to follow and go and build and achieve, then get mad at them for celebrating with passion and vigor. Why hold those they look up to to different standards?
If you can honestly say that you have never made something happen that you were proud of without freaking out, then you are a better person than I. If you have never told someone who had nothing but trash to talk about you (and maybe you’re lucky enough that someone never had such animosity towards you) to stuff it, then you are one in a million.
But if you are like me, like 99% of the rest of humanity, with passions and feelings and impulsive behaviors, then quit dogging on Sherman. No, he’s not a classless thug. He’s an incredibly smart individual, who devotes time to a local children’s hospital, who made an amazing achievement and went totally crazy for a glorious, well deserved rant.
Tell your kids that it’s okay to get excited. That it’s okay to go back and apologize for being rude (which Sherman did to the reporter who was the outlet for his outburst). You can have role-models who are real people, and behave as such.