Maybe that’s a bit extreme. Maybe instead of “I refuse to put my phone down” it should say “I’m not going to stop capturing memories as often as I can.”
Because, I’m forgetting. I hate to admit it, but there it is.
I’m forgetting the way Cabin Girl looked as a baby. Cabin Boy and Mr. Monkey, too. I see their sweet baby faces every time I look at The Kraken, but when I try to remember their faces specifically… it’s slipping.
The toothy grins. The little teeth. The funny looks.
The phases of their precious babyhoods flew by so fast. Their toddlerhoods and childhoods, everything sweeping by us in what feels like eternity but passes in a blink. The days drag by but the weeks, months, and years are speeding past, too quickly to keep hold of.
And so I take my pictures. I step out of one moment for 10 seconds so that I can capture it, savor it, and have it forever when I will no longer remember clearly. I refuse to put my phone down, to be bullied by phrases like “You’re missing out on the here and now!”
I am enjoying the moment, stepping back from it, then jumping right back in. No regrets that night, kicking myself for not capturing the way The Kraken gazed at her big brothers while they sang sweet songs to her. They aren’t just moments for me, they’re moments for my kids, too. Some day, my kids will hear me tell stories about the things they did together, the little, everyday things, and I’ll have to struggle to remember what they looked like. Or, heavens forbid, I won’t remember some of the best, simple things they did.
So I refuse to put my phone down.
Because that day of not remembering is coming sooner than I’d hoped.